Tips To Get Your Relationship Out Of A Romance Rut

We get it that there comes a time in a relationship when you get into a romance rut. You feel like you don’t need to try with your partner anymore. The tingling feelings, smiles and mushy looks are gone but that does not in any way mean that you don’t love your partner anymore.

If this continues over some time, the relationship becomes boring, and unfulfilling and may likely result in a breakup or divorce. Particularly when your partner meets someone who gets them all fired up with adventures they won’t get from you.

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There’s good news if you and your partner have fallen into a romance rut that you feel you can’t get out of. But both parties must be willing to work together to ensure they make a transition from a predictable and boring lifestyle to a more lively one full of fun and adventures.

Don’t worry, TBN got you. Here are ways you can seamlessly shift your relationship from an uninteresting stage to a fun-filled one.

Recognise the problem: You can’t solve a problem if you don’t even know there’s a problem. A relationship is a continuous commitment where every decision and attitude counts and issues need to be resolved. If you acknowledge that your relationship has an issue, then you can take steps to solve it.

Reflect: Once you have recognized that your relationship is getting boring. It is important to take some time to reflect on what could have contributed to the rut. You may want to consider some factors such as intimacy, work time, communication, quality time spent together, intimacy, and any unresolved conflicts. If you can identify these, you are one way off to get out of the rut.

Be proactive: it is not enough to recognize when your relationship is in a romantic rut. You must make conscious efforts to adopt lifestyle changes and attitudes that will make the relationship fun and adventurous. For example, if you notice that certain behaviours and conditions are causing a feeling of disconnect between you and your spouse, you must take the necessary steps to solve these problems. You can also plan activities such as date nights, therapy and counselling which may help.

Resolve conflicts: unresolved conflicts are inimical to relationships. They increase burdens, resentment and tension in the relationship. Burying all the hurts of your partner without necessarily communicating them not only hurts you but also suffers the relationship. Endeavour to communicate and resolve any issues you have with your partner.

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Goals Alignment: To get out of a romance rut, both partners must be completely aligned. If one is striving towards a breakup and the other wants to make the relationship work, it means that only one gets their wish. Goal alignment means that both couple wants to do all they can to save their relationship. This anything may be trying new activities together, prioritizing quality time, seeking counselling etc.

Finally, you can only be a good partner if you are okay mentally, Physically and otherwise. If you are always cranky, depressed and angry, you will alienate your partner. Recognize that some problems can’t be solved alone and that you will need the help of a professional to get out of the romance rut. Whichever option you choose, make sure that you and your partner are prioritising the same thing.